~~Hugs~~ I love them.

~ ~ Hugs ~ ~ I love them.

Hugging…

I wrote a post once about hugging. Ha!! ‘Post’. I always feel a bit funny when I write the word ‘Post’. I sometimes get a fleeting vision of me being a ‘post mistress’ but not your typical, average one. Chuckling.

Let me talk about hugging:

Well hugs. I’ve been really lucky in my life in the hugging area. My life worked out that I ‘do’ a lot of group stuff and at the end of each group we hugged.

I have different hugs. Group hugs are/can be quite reserved hugs, however I find such a warmth and meaning in each person’s reservation’s.Hugs with men are different for me in that setting than hugs with women.

For a few years in my life I was giving and recieving over a hundred hugs a day. I worked in places where groups were in tact. For one in Lancaster Prison.The Castle.For two.Various treatment centres for addiction and alcoholism. 

The hugs with men and work had to be more….er..they couldn’t be as close for obvious reason’s.One woman therapist wouldn’t hug and I got challenged  by her on my hugging. Do you want to know what she said to me.

OH!! I better not say. She was a Canadian woman and I’m thinking in Canada they can’t hug like we do. She said to me.’Who do you think they masterbate over at night’ Do you know what I felt like saying but I didn’t. OH!! I’m not going to say because it’s rude and disrespectful. OKEY!! I will. I thought about saying ‘ Well not you - you fat bitch’ but I never. Hehe!! You know… that never came into my head, it wouldn’t. I don’t make any habit in wondering who people are masterbating over ( only some ) hehe!!

A hug is a hug and after group therapy you hug.It’s always been like for for me. She justed walked away into the office. Nose in the air.I can understand that she found it very difficult to hug but please respect us that don’t.I can also understand about the concept of professionalism ( a bit ) to and boundries, however hugging after group is part of closing a group. It’s safe. She’ actually created a shift in the group really with her attitude.

I attended AA and NA meetings for years where hugging is almost infectious. So many hugs. Again men and women hugs in this setting are so different. Some people find it difficult to hug and would prefer a smile or a handshake. I so respect that difference.Some people have other motives where hugging is concerned in meetings. You kinda get to know from experiencing the hugs with different people how far to go with the giving and recieving of a hug.

I hug in shops and in the street. I always hug friends some of my friends don’t hug and don’t want me to hug them so I don’t. A little kiss on the cheek always does the trick with close friends who don’t hug.

This is a picture of me and my friend Jan hugging last week. I love hugging pictures. Maybe when I get my new camera that could be ‘my thing’. I could ask people to hug each other and take their pictures hugging. How very special is that. Awww!!!!What a beautiful project. Just by the by here. I just love the flower in my hair. I made that head band specialy for that night.

When I was part of a team recovering on line my service was the hugger. I hugged everybody that needed a hug. I never asked for that position, I asked for service and got given the ‘hugger job’ So special. I hugged so many people all over the world in so many different situations. I feel so privilaged to  have had that experience. From 3 in the morning till my son got up for school I had hugged so many people. I was very often late getting my son up. To engrossed in hugging and caring for people. 

All Over The World. Wow!! We had 11 countries at one point on line all talking recovery. aww!! I miss that. Intense tho. Fuck so intense.Was for me. I had my own hugging programme. I had real special hugs. Awww!!! A part of me wants all that back I miss my online connections.

I hug my children everytime they leave the house or every time my daughter enters my home. Depending on their mood depends on the level of closness they want from me. Awww!! Do you wanna know the bestest hug ever. My grandson. I’ve never wanted to eat anyone as much when hugging. Oh!! He strokes my face and tells me I look pretty when we’re hugging, runs off and looks back at me and comes back for another one. So special. So sweet.That is my dream hug.

SO…If anyone out there needs a hugger I’m your girl.I could dress up and hug people in shops for promotions and stuff. Ha! In fact.. I’ll offer my services for nothing. I don’t even want paying. I’ve been thinking of maybe a little light work.I couldn’t think of anything ‘nicer’ than hugging all day. Well maybe one day a week and I’m not to sure on the day. All depending on my head. Smiling.

Someday’s I don’t want to hug. I’m thinking, when I was in the position’s I’ve just stated. having to hug when you don’t want to, when your to closed off for human contact and you ‘HAVE to hug a lot of people. It’s so hard.

Hugs and Smiles Always… Well ‘always’ is a bit to bloody optimistic  Laughing. 

Good Morning

Diane

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PS. Jan has one of the most tenderest hugs ever. We just melted into each other. I love my women friends who can have real close hugs. I love the safty of these real close hugs with certain people. Yes! I love my night out’s hugs. I love close hugs with my men friends to.

Anyway I quess I better start to think about cooking. I’d rather hug than cook today.

Thank you Madsnapperphotos.com for great pictures.I was thinking of  asking Ian the photographer of Madsnapperphoto.com to take pictures of me hugging if we’re out on the same night. It would be nice if he could capture some shots of me hugging my friends. I could make a hugging wall creation with quality pictures. Yes!! I’ll ask him. He takes amazing pictures of people having a great time. Lot’s of smiles. Lots of dancing. I don’t take great dancing shot’s. I take okey hug shot’s tho.

I have purchased some of his pictures for a christmas present for a friend.We loved them.I recommend Ian pictures/work. I’ve no idea how he manages to capture such great shots of our party’s and festivals. No idea how he doesn’t get side-tracked. Maybe he does and his shots are all sidetracked. Hehe!! Cool. aww!! Thank-you so much Ian for all the time,effort and energy you put in for us all. ( hope you don’t mind me putting this picture here ) Arr!!! Maybe I should have asked first.

Well I’m aware I’m rambeling

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